Sigh. There is so much hurt in the world — people suffering on organ waiting lists, people suffering from anger and resentment, people who are not at peace with themselves, their world, their gifts. Dr. Richard Batista, irritated by four years of divorce proceedings following his wife’s extramarital affair, is telling her now that he wants his kidney back, the one he donated to her a couple of years before she began the affair. Of course, in lieu of the kidney, he’s willing to take $1.5 million.
In his photo, he looks so incredibly sad. My heart goes out to anyone in pain, but he does not have my empathy on this one. He admits, according to the article I’ve linked to above, that part of his motive in donating his kidney to his wife was to save their then-already-struggling marriage. (Anyone else out there think maybe this current press war he’s starting isn’t really about the kidney????)
Point for the day, and a good piece of wisdom for future living donors to heed: When we living donors give this greatest gift, we should be giving it freely. No strings. No conditions. It is a gift, not an IOU or an obligation. We should not go into it with motive, or see our gifts as giving us some kind of permanent upper hand in our relationship with our recipient.
For Dr. Batista and his wife, I pray for peace, especially that all too rare inner kind.